As a father, I am convinced that God will hold me accountable if I do not help teach my daughter how to guard her heart. According to Proverbs 4:23; Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life, our heart is the seat of our emotions and are very precious. When it comes to my daughter’s emotional well being I am to help her understand this verse. Also, according to Proverbs 16:1, The preparations of the heart in man and the answer of the tongue, is from the Lord, I am to teach Rebekah that God will guide her and I am to help her understand how God leads her. I am constantly working on ways to help Rebekah open herself to God’s leading in order to allow the Lord to prepare her heart. I did something the other evening and I pray that God will use it in order to help my daughter understand how precious her emotions are and how special it is to “fall in love”.
I believe that we live in such times that little girls and boys are promoted to be boyfriend and girlfriend before their emotions are able to handle it. My daughter had an experience at camp this past year where a boy camper asked her if she would be his girlfriend. She spoke with me about it and I told her I felt it was too early and that if she wanted to trade email addresses it would be ok. He kept persisting and she told him she would be his girlfriend. She was so excited and we did not want to place a damper on her excitement. Gail and I had to leave early from the camp and we left Rebekah there with the rest of the group. We found out later that this young boy told one of his buddies that he was only using her because he wanted to have a girlfriend. It broke my daughter’s heart. She cried and was hurt but she acted so mature. She confronted him about this statement and he confirmed it was true. She then told him that his treatment of her was not cool and he should have come to her and told her instead of telling others. He later came back and apologized to her for what he did, which does say something about the young man’s character.
As a result of this adventure I decided that it was time for me to take action in order to prepare her and teach her to guard her heart. The picture you see here is a ring that I purchased and gave to Rebekah this past Monday evening. I had a special time with her where we went to get ice cream. As we sat down I presented the gift to her and told her that God had bestowed on me the duty of guarding her heart. The ring is in the shape of a heart and it represents her heart. I told her that I was watching that ring and it was to stay on her finger until she gets married. I told her that she was to treat that ring like she would treat her heart. In this explanation, I told her that if I were to see her using that ring improperly or abusing it in any way I certainly would call her attention to it and even say no in some instances. It would be the same thing if I saw her abusing her emotions or treating them without care or concern. As long as the ring was on her finger it meant that she has not given her heart in marriage to anyone. When she did find that special love she was to wait until her wedding night to give the ring to her husband. It would be when she gets married that I release my duty of guarding her heart over to her husband.
I pray that God will honor this act and I pray that Rebekah will find the love that God has given me in my wife Gail.